“What’s the Perfect Job for Me?”

Joel has created a systematic way to discover and find the work that fully resonates with your truest passion. He is passionate, and wholeheartedly committed to and completely enlivened by the opportunity for others to work with their own passions, talents and gifts. Joel was on of the best investments I’ve ever made in myself and my life.

Brett Penfil, Organization Consultant,
Blue Shield of California

 

“What will you do when you grow up?” An all too common question that each and every individual striving for success in life must confront. Perhaps even more difficult, no matter what stage in our professional development we come to this momentous conclusion, is deciding what actions to take next before a potential opportunity of a lifetime passes us by.

A client of mine who was wondering, “What’s the perfect job for me?” said the following:

Coming to the conclusion that I want to work for a design firm somehow does feel comfortable. However, I’m still experiencing conflicting doubts that maybe this really isn’t the right decision, even though this the first idea that always enters my mind when asked by family and friends about what field I want to go into. The session we just had is really making me question this. Are there other passions I would really like to explore other than my “standard” answer?

How many of us don’t even have a standard answer in the first place, let alone know what to do about it? There is truth that this “standard answer” is the right one for this client, but are they being hindered by their own limitations or a false sense of who they really are? Or the other side of the coin: is this the “standard” answer that makes their respective peers, family and friends feels like this career path is the “right” one to follow?
 
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So if you’re asking yourself, “What is the perfect job for me?’, consider the following:

We Achieve to the Degree that We Believe in Ourselves

The night before General Douglas MacArthur took his West Point entrance exam he was all nerves. To console him, his mother offered the following advice, “Doug, you’ll win if you don’t lose your nerve. You must believe in yourself, my son, or no one else will believe in you. Be self-confident, self-reliant and, even if you don’t make it, you will know you have done your best.” When the test scores were announced Douglas MacArthur finished at the top of the incoming class.

Hoping Won’t Make Something Happen

Heed the warning from this ancient Chinese proverb, “Man who waits for roast duck to fly into mouth must wait very, very long time.”

Setting Priorities Makes Things Happen

Investment mogul Charles M. Schwab makes it a practice to invest five minutes analyzing the various problems he should tackle each day, writing down those tasks in the order of their priority. Upon arriving in the office the following morning he methodically starts with task number 1 before proceeding to tasks 2, 3, 4, and so on in sequence, saying, “This is the most practical lesson I’ve ever learned.”

To further illustrate this point he provides this example: “I had put off a phone call for nine months so I decided to list it as my number one task on my next day’s agenda. That call netted us a $2 million account.”

Ambition is the Key to Triumphing over Less Than “Ideal” Circumstances

Colonel Sanders found himself broke at age 65 but used a small Social Security Check to start what became Kentucky Fried Chicken. Florence Chadwick became the first woman to swim the English Channel knowing that many men before her had died trying. Henry Ford overcame an initial lack of consumer demand for his automobiles to jumpstart one of the largest international conglomerates in industrial history.

An “expert” once said of NFL coaching legend Vince Lombardi, “He possesses minimal football knowledge. Lacks motivation.” Yet Lombardi went on to win several Super Bowls. Similarly, after dancer extraordinaire Fred Astaire’s first screen test, the review from the casting director of MGM read as follows: “Can’t act! Slightly bald! Can dance a little.” For added motivation to aspire to his dream career, Astaire kept that potentially devastating critique over the fireplace in his Beverly Hills home.

Most Importantly, Indecision is Usually a Decision not to Succeed

Corporate CEO David Mahoney said that the worst mistakes he ever made were largely because of the decisions he failed to make. In 1966, he was the head of Canada Dry. The stock was selling at a low price of $11 and with about two and a half million shares outstanding, he could have bought the entire company for around $30 million. He didn’t and about twenty years later, the company became worth well over $700 million.

General Dwight D. Eisenhower nearly botched D-Day because he could not make up his mind on the best movement for the attack. Finally, he said, “No matter what the weather looks like, we have to go ahead now. Waiting any longer could be even more dangerous so let’s move it.”

The moral of this story, there is a time and place in each of our lives where we must make a leap of faith in order to avoid a scenario where even the right decision becomes the wrong one because it has come to late. Or as Eisenhower’s contemporary, General George S. Patton once said, “Opportunities do not come to those who wait. They are captured by those who attack.”

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Your Calling: “I’ve found the perfect job for me!”

Vocation means to be called to something with an intensity that rules out mere chance. You realize, “I’ve found the perfect job for me!” You may know your vocation at the age of three or you may not discover it until you are in the autumn of your life. It follows no particular time frame and, once it becomes known, seldom can be ignored. Steven Spielberg was making home movies at a very early age. It has become his vocation and life’s passion.

Reverend Billy Graham’s daughter didn’t recognize she shared her father’s calling for many years because she was largely outshone by her father and brother. Not until the frustrations of daily life as a busy wife and mother led her to seriously examine it, did she come to realize she too wanted to share the gospel. Then she told her a friend of hers, “I found the perfect job for me.” 

You may recognize your vocation as a result of an activity you enjoy or it may take you by surprise. Inevitably, you must have time to daydream, time to explore new ideas for a vocation to make itself known. If your current work encompasses the majority of your time, you have no time or energy left to devote to unseen opportunities. That work pulls you down its path and takes you away from the potential you might discover elsewhere. The security of doing what is familiar outweighs the risk of trying something new.

Answering your calling can be compared to channeling. You are listening to an inner voice that pulls you toward a new opportunity. When you take time to explore it, do you lose track of time? Have several hours passed by in a period you envisioned was only a few minutes? The joy and intensity you found fully captivated your thoughts and imagination. Honoring this inner calling gives you a sense of calm and a sense of fulfillment. It is what you were meant to do.

Imagine a life in which each day was lived to the fullest, filled with the activity you love. You can get there, one step at a time by honoring that quiet voice within you, by giving yourself the time to cultivate new skills and talents.

When your subconscious tells you to call or visit a friend, answer it. Allow that inner voice an opportunity to be heard. Regularly give yourself time to consider what your calling might be. The people you speak with and the activities you encounter may eventually lead you to that which fills you with true joy.

Holistic Career Planning Can Reveal the Real You

Michelangelo once claimed that he did not really create the figures he carved in marble. They were already set in the stone and he simply chipped away the excess so they could be seen.

This analogy is also true of many aspects of life both in the world around us and on an individual level within each of us. Look at the archeologist who painstakingly whisks away the excess debris built up over time to reveal the beautiful pottery created by an ancient society. The beauty was there all along but it was hidden beneath the residue of dirt and clay that had hardened into a protective shell. That dull outer layer didn’t form quickly. It did so gradually, over the years, eventually hiding the original and unique creation hidden below.

Another comparison is the recently renovated Sistine Chapel. Centuries of smoke, dust, and humidity had accumulated to mute the once brilliant original colors of this true masterpiece. Only after years of careful cleaning by experts to remove the buildup of accumulated grime did this work of art re-emerge in all its original glory.

Of course, when it comes to human beings, the one-of-a-kind talents and gifts within us contribute to making us the original creation we are. Although negative people and circumstances can greatly dull or tarnish our positive self image, the fact remains that there is still beauty waiting to be revealed. Just like reclaiming ancient pottery or restoring the Sistine Chapel, it simply takes someone with the right combination of knowledge, patience, skills, and tools to carefully reveal the masterpiece hidden deep inside of you.

With any masterpiece, the whole is always greater than the sum of the parts. When thinking about your future and working life, holistic career planning can help to reveal the real you, Here are five effective ways to do this:

1. Start taking life in stride.

Try to avoid those activities that require you to move quickly or rush. Much like panning for gold, the greatest treasures that lie within you can only be found by slowing down and sifting through your innermost thoughts and dreams. Treasured insights come from slowing down and engaging in deep concentration and reflection.

2. Spend time in solitude.

Allowing yourself alone time will provide you with an even greater opportunity to delve deep within. Create a retreat or sanctuary that allows you to completely escape from your daily distractions and focus on your inner masterpiece.

3. Engage in perspective self talk.

Speak aloud to yourself in a nurturing environment. Get to know the part of you that praises just how far you have come and recognizes the triumphs that are yet to be. Uncovering this inside realm will give you a clear perspective of your wonderful life ahead.

4. Record your inner thoughts and feelings.

As you become more aware of what is occurring inside you, writing it down will add strength to your intuitive muscle and allow you to develop your own life-empowering treasure map that will greatly expand your ability to see beyond what you think and do every day.

5. Consult regularly with a trusted friend or mentor.

Sharing with a friend or mentor what you’ve discovered in solitude is another inspirational and time-saving way to clear even more negative debris or emotional obstacles that are keeping the person you truly want to become “out of sight” and “out of mind.” Seeking out an intuitive friend or mentor who may already have experienced what you’re experiencing or who have uncovered in themselves something similar to what you are trying to discover gives you the advantage of insight and moral support to sustain your self searching process. More importantly, it will give you the extra encouragement or hope to realize that it is truly possible to reveal the real you. However, it’s still up to you make it happen.

As a coach, holistic career planning helps my clients reveal what they are authentically meant to do for work. I see myself as an archaeologist or the restorer of unfulfilled personal expectations and lost aspirations. It is my role and goal to help each of my clients carefully chip away the accumulated residue of time, shed the negative layers of doubt and fear that may have built up around their dreams without them ever realizing it, and, little by little, help their true self emerge and shine more brightly than ever before.

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